BlessedBovine on Nostr: My wife and I are working on our second adoption. We're going through a private ...
My wife and I are working on our second adoption. We're going through a private adoption agency, instead of the State. Sometimes people ask us how much that costs. Now we're pretty open about our finances, so we don't generally mind sharing that it ends up being in the ballpark of $30,000-$35,000.
Some of our least favorite responses have been comments along the lines of, "Oh, so it costs as much as if you just had a baby normally."
This comment in particular really bothers us. First off, depending on what State we adopt out of, we may still be responsible for the baby's birth expenses in addition to the adoption costs. Secondly, most people have insurance to offset the hospital costs. From what I could find for out of pocket expenses in our State a birth is between $0.00 on State Medicaid, upto $25,000 if you have no insurance at all. With most costing between $2,000-$7,000 or up to the annual insurance deductible.
I know they don't mean any harm by it, but boy it rubs me the wrong way. Price aside, there's a lot of work and heart ache that goes into a successful adoption. Not to mention time waiting, not knowing when you'll be blessed with your next child. We've been told to expect between 1-3 years of waiting per adoption.
For us, we know we're meant to be parents, so we're putting in the extra work.
#Adoption #Kids #Children #Family
Some of our least favorite responses have been comments along the lines of, "Oh, so it costs as much as if you just had a baby normally."
This comment in particular really bothers us. First off, depending on what State we adopt out of, we may still be responsible for the baby's birth expenses in addition to the adoption costs. Secondly, most people have insurance to offset the hospital costs. From what I could find for out of pocket expenses in our State a birth is between $0.00 on State Medicaid, upto $25,000 if you have no insurance at all. With most costing between $2,000-$7,000 or up to the annual insurance deductible.
I know they don't mean any harm by it, but boy it rubs me the wrong way. Price aside, there's a lot of work and heart ache that goes into a successful adoption. Not to mention time waiting, not knowing when you'll be blessed with your next child. We've been told to expect between 1-3 years of waiting per adoption.
For us, we know we're meant to be parents, so we're putting in the extra work.
#Adoption #Kids #Children #Family