Oliphant Is Completely Fine on Nostr: Currently in the process of witnessing a 'banned' server that effectively got ...

Currently in the process of witnessing a 'banned' server that effectively got pre-banned out of a concern that it was going to attract members of another banned server--is now unbanned, because that never actually happened.

I realize everyone wants this process to be clean, have clearly-delineated lines, to be a reassuring thing with some "Big Daddy" governing body in charge--

And that will never, ever happen.

Some servers have a rigorous process, some don't.

Get to know your admins and mods, that's my advice.

"Yes, but other mods and admins can be erratic and make bad defederation choices, too, and that still affects me on this server!"

...Yes? I'd like you to propose an alternative.

One that would actually work.

What you're missing is the comforting certainty that there's Somebody In Charge. And that this Somebody cares about you, cares about the money they can make off of you, and certainly cares about the 'content' you're producing for them so that they can both mine you and others for precious, precious moneybucks and sell you to their advertisers.

Well, sorry to break it to you, but there are Many Someones In Charge and no one--not anyone--literally no one at all--can tell them all what to do.

Ever hear the expression about herding cats?

That's the decentralized anarchy at the heart of all of this, and what makes it work is communities talking with each other openly, and being able to disassociate from communities that do not suit them--or that might be actively destructive to them.

I sincerely doubt you'll be able to propose an alternative that doesn't ratchet up the centralization and tyranny.