RickThrivingNow on Nostr: "I have no spare clothes for Adira with me because I'm stupid." That's what my text ...
"I have no spare clothes for Adira with me because I'm stupid."
That's what my text to Jem said. She wrote back, "You’re not stupid, just were trying to get out the door! I’ll bring some."
Now that is Grace in the face of someone being hard on themselves for the kind of Mistake even "seasoned" parents make.
Part of the skill of Grace in Mistakes is holding space for other people learning what works and what does not... what is savvy, and what is unwise. Even what works shockingly well!
Then we internalize that treatment to include our own mistakes.
Adira is sitting here listening to her Yoto. When she tried to turn it on, about 6 minutes ago, it was out of power. She cried. It's a "mistake" not to plug it in at the end of the day. Heck, I've done that with my phone, watch, computer... so I have a lot of compassion. We plugged it in and started listening.
But, then she unplugged it after 5 minutes of charging and sits next to me on the sofa. I did tell her it was not yet charged, but she is living the "mistake" of not charging it enough... and I am living the moment of getting to co-work with her, sitting shoulder to shoulder, this Beautiful Being nestled next to me.
Yes, I know the power is going to run out, maybe even before I finishing writing to y'all. Grace in Mistakes can mean allowing ourselves and those we love to explore. It's not life-threatening, even if it will likely mean Big Feelings.
Such is life. "Mistakes" is one label. Learning, Exploring, visiting the edge... different frames on the same thing. Being Human... another. Growing? You bet! (Unless we get so cruel with ourselves we never leave the house with or without spare clothes!)
Cathy and I are meeting tomorrow (Sunday) with those of us who self-select that we want more grace as we live, as we discover what works... and (ouch!) what does not. We hope you'll choose to join us... Everyone gets the recording who signs up.
https://www.thrivingnow.center/t/1457
That's what my text to Jem said. She wrote back, "You’re not stupid, just were trying to get out the door! I’ll bring some."
Now that is Grace in the face of someone being hard on themselves for the kind of Mistake even "seasoned" parents make.
Part of the skill of Grace in Mistakes is holding space for other people learning what works and what does not... what is savvy, and what is unwise. Even what works shockingly well!
Then we internalize that treatment to include our own mistakes.
Adira is sitting here listening to her Yoto. When she tried to turn it on, about 6 minutes ago, it was out of power. She cried. It's a "mistake" not to plug it in at the end of the day. Heck, I've done that with my phone, watch, computer... so I have a lot of compassion. We plugged it in and started listening.
But, then she unplugged it after 5 minutes of charging and sits next to me on the sofa. I did tell her it was not yet charged, but she is living the "mistake" of not charging it enough... and I am living the moment of getting to co-work with her, sitting shoulder to shoulder, this Beautiful Being nestled next to me.
Yes, I know the power is going to run out, maybe even before I finishing writing to y'all. Grace in Mistakes can mean allowing ourselves and those we love to explore. It's not life-threatening, even if it will likely mean Big Feelings.
Such is life. "Mistakes" is one label. Learning, Exploring, visiting the edge... different frames on the same thing. Being Human... another. Growing? You bet! (Unless we get so cruel with ourselves we never leave the house with or without spare clothes!)
Cathy and I are meeting tomorrow (Sunday) with those of us who self-select that we want more grace as we live, as we discover what works... and (ouch!) what does not. We hope you'll choose to join us... Everyone gets the recording who signs up.
https://www.thrivingnow.center/t/1457