pam on Nostr: I am that woman who did not like women labelled as gossipers =) It's a pet peeve for ...
I am that woman who did not like women labelled as gossipers =)
It's a pet peeve for me to bitch about people when you have a million better things to talk about. I'd rather talk to you about an issue that's related to you then to someone else and bitch about you. Make sense?
And if I am talking to you about someone else, that's likely because i trust you enough to have a healthy conversation about it. This circle of trust for me is very small.
That doesn't mean women or men do not gossip - many do and its really bad - but i would not like to be labelled as one based on my gender.
That and really, have you seen how much more men gossip - jk! =)
Anyway, you referring to what gossip was defined based on, does not mean you are a mean person, Mike. And a far cry on the attacks women get. You are probably just an innocent idiot geek who thought you could build something to meet more women =) It took me a while to understand men are idiot sometimes (i don't mean this in a bad way).
Re : On the main issue of this thread - A lot of people are unable to get into a healthy debate and separate personal attacks. There is a severe lack of emotional intelligence and just good manners.
Some of the shitty things men say here are really nasty - I was called a whore for talking about homemade face products, one recently was triggered when i was talking abt tech.
i could have responded ego vs ego but quite frankly i don't have the time to sit down and convince some random stranger i don't give two hoots about nor let him affect how i should run my life so i ignored like i have many others. Doesn't mean it doesn't upset me, nor have I not reacted in the past. I just rather engage with what is relevant and important to me now.
If I am responding here, then its because you matter to me. It's as simple as that.
That also doesn't mean women are not shitty either. I've seen one here cry abuse on sexual harassment, and then verbally sexually harass Jack. I've seen one who puts other people down and get sympathy from the public. Women can be just as vulgar, rude and inappropriate.
It also doesn't mean men should not call out bad behaviors from men or women, its a free world. But there is a diff between personal attacks and calling out bad behaviours, and how you do it.
It's a pet peeve for me to bitch about people when you have a million better things to talk about. I'd rather talk to you about an issue that's related to you then to someone else and bitch about you. Make sense?
And if I am talking to you about someone else, that's likely because i trust you enough to have a healthy conversation about it. This circle of trust for me is very small.
That doesn't mean women or men do not gossip - many do and its really bad - but i would not like to be labelled as one based on my gender.
That and really, have you seen how much more men gossip - jk! =)
Anyway, you referring to what gossip was defined based on, does not mean you are a mean person, Mike. And a far cry on the attacks women get. You are probably just an innocent idiot geek who thought you could build something to meet more women =) It took me a while to understand men are idiot sometimes (i don't mean this in a bad way).
Re : On the main issue of this thread - A lot of people are unable to get into a healthy debate and separate personal attacks. There is a severe lack of emotional intelligence and just good manners.
Some of the shitty things men say here are really nasty - I was called a whore for talking about homemade face products, one recently was triggered when i was talking abt tech.
i could have responded ego vs ego but quite frankly i don't have the time to sit down and convince some random stranger i don't give two hoots about nor let him affect how i should run my life so i ignored like i have many others. Doesn't mean it doesn't upset me, nor have I not reacted in the past. I just rather engage with what is relevant and important to me now.
If I am responding here, then its because you matter to me. It's as simple as that.
That also doesn't mean women are not shitty either. I've seen one here cry abuse on sexual harassment, and then verbally sexually harass Jack. I've seen one who puts other people down and get sympathy from the public. Women can be just as vulgar, rude and inappropriate.
It also doesn't mean men should not call out bad behaviors from men or women, its a free world. But there is a diff between personal attacks and calling out bad behaviours, and how you do it.