Legally Faith :v_tg: :v_lb: on Nostr: You just had to click it didn't you? 😉 But seriously, boobs have been on my mind a ...
You just had to click it didn't you? 😉
But seriously, boobs have been on my mind a lot lately. Trans women talk about them all the time. One might say we're obsessed. 😅 To be fair, though, they are on the top of the list of gendered physical characteristics, so much so that one of the primary differences between male and female coded clothing is what they do in the chest area. They're kind of a big deal.
And we're told that bigger is better. But not too big or you're a slut! If you've grown up with Western female beauty standards, you've been inundated your whole life with messaging about the importance of boobs. The importance of having them and showing them off and the importance of covering them. It's all confusing and conflicting and the whole point seems to be to get us all obsessing over them. And... I'd argue it's even worse if you've been socialized as a guy.
But here's the thing... Lots of cis women have really small boobs, almost unnoticeable compared to the Kim Kardashians we see in magazines or on Instagram. I noticed this last week when hanging out with my cousins. I had some of the biggest boobs there. I noticed it again when my wife and I went out for pizza. Lots of women with boobs smaller than mine and ya'know what? They all looked entirely feminine.
So what's going on? Why do I see small-breasted women and think they look totally feminine but think mine aren't big enough? Some of it is probably because I also have a larger rib cage and so I need bigger boobs if they are to look the same relative to my chest size. Okay, that sounds real, right? Also, one could argue that we have other, less feminine characteristics and that we need bigger, more obvious boobs to counterbalance that. Or maybe cis women want bigger boobs too and we're just so used to body hacking that we think nothing about going big?
IDK. I don't have answers. Just tossing ideas around and trying to understand what's going on in my own head and the heads of my sisters. I think another thing we have going on is dysphoria in the form of doubt. We need boobs to help combat that dysphoric doubt and convince our brains that we really are the women we know ourselves to be.
So there you have it. Thoughts about boobs.
Now enough with the thinking. Gather 'round, ladies! Let's summon some of that big boob energy!
But seriously, boobs have been on my mind a lot lately. Trans women talk about them all the time. One might say we're obsessed. 😅 To be fair, though, they are on the top of the list of gendered physical characteristics, so much so that one of the primary differences between male and female coded clothing is what they do in the chest area. They're kind of a big deal.
And we're told that bigger is better. But not too big or you're a slut! If you've grown up with Western female beauty standards, you've been inundated your whole life with messaging about the importance of boobs. The importance of having them and showing them off and the importance of covering them. It's all confusing and conflicting and the whole point seems to be to get us all obsessing over them. And... I'd argue it's even worse if you've been socialized as a guy.
But here's the thing... Lots of cis women have really small boobs, almost unnoticeable compared to the Kim Kardashians we see in magazines or on Instagram. I noticed this last week when hanging out with my cousins. I had some of the biggest boobs there. I noticed it again when my wife and I went out for pizza. Lots of women with boobs smaller than mine and ya'know what? They all looked entirely feminine.
So what's going on? Why do I see small-breasted women and think they look totally feminine but think mine aren't big enough? Some of it is probably because I also have a larger rib cage and so I need bigger boobs if they are to look the same relative to my chest size. Okay, that sounds real, right? Also, one could argue that we have other, less feminine characteristics and that we need bigger, more obvious boobs to counterbalance that. Or maybe cis women want bigger boobs too and we're just so used to body hacking that we think nothing about going big?
IDK. I don't have answers. Just tossing ideas around and trying to understand what's going on in my own head and the heads of my sisters. I think another thing we have going on is dysphoria in the form of doubt. We need boobs to help combat that dysphoric doubt and convince our brains that we really are the women we know ourselves to be.
So there you have it. Thoughts about boobs.
Now enough with the thinking. Gather 'round, ladies! Let's summon some of that big boob energy!