BitTiger on Nostr: So I would like to open up a personal matter to public opinion. Maybe I am missing ...
So I would like to open up a personal matter to public opinion. Maybe I am missing something.
Here is the situation. It is very bad. Please do not TLDR if you can should you care. I need outside advice that is not biased. Lives are at stake.
Let us say that you have a senior citizen aunt who is a hoarder. Over the past 5 years since her divorce and loosing her possessions. She now lives alone in a house with 2 dogs.
She has stopped cleaning the house. Her home is a warehouse for qvc. There are dust bunnies everywhere. There is evidence of a yellow jacket infestation. There is evidence of potential water damage in the basement. The roof is in dire need of replacing before it caves in. The outside deck is ready to collapse from wood rot. The carpets are soaked and stink from dog piss and shit. The overwhelming stench of mold will give you a migraine in under 10 minutes. Your eyes will become scratchy and red. Touch any fabric and you will get a rash that can last for weeks.
Yet to her nothing is wrong and she just needs to straighten up the house.
Her mental state is in decline. The mold has turned her into a loose cannon. Prone to flying into fits of verbal rage over anything. I can no longer trust being around her for short periods of time, because I can not handle her.
My mother is no longer mentally competant enough to stand up to her older sister. For she has the same issues with hoarding, but to a lesser extent. She downplays the issues and denies them, because deep down she does not want to deal with it. So my aunt unknowingly is suffering. My sibling agrees with me.
There is one living relative left with actual legal authority. The middle child. Who puts her head in the sand, but I believe is actually mentally competant to do something about this. I have to inform her of what is going on, but I fear she will also do nothing too. Due to her nature.
If I have no legal authority until my mother and other aunt are dead. What is the moral and ethical thing to do if you know that one of your family members is now living in such a state?
I do not want to destroy, or fracture our family any more than it already has been. My partner tells me to let it go and do not stir shit up. Is she right? Am I missing another solution that I have not thought of?
Please help me with sound advice if you can.
#asknostr
Here is the situation. It is very bad. Please do not TLDR if you can should you care. I need outside advice that is not biased. Lives are at stake.
Let us say that you have a senior citizen aunt who is a hoarder. Over the past 5 years since her divorce and loosing her possessions. She now lives alone in a house with 2 dogs.
She has stopped cleaning the house. Her home is a warehouse for qvc. There are dust bunnies everywhere. There is evidence of a yellow jacket infestation. There is evidence of potential water damage in the basement. The roof is in dire need of replacing before it caves in. The outside deck is ready to collapse from wood rot. The carpets are soaked and stink from dog piss and shit. The overwhelming stench of mold will give you a migraine in under 10 minutes. Your eyes will become scratchy and red. Touch any fabric and you will get a rash that can last for weeks.
Yet to her nothing is wrong and she just needs to straighten up the house.
Her mental state is in decline. The mold has turned her into a loose cannon. Prone to flying into fits of verbal rage over anything. I can no longer trust being around her for short periods of time, because I can not handle her.
My mother is no longer mentally competant enough to stand up to her older sister. For she has the same issues with hoarding, but to a lesser extent. She downplays the issues and denies them, because deep down she does not want to deal with it. So my aunt unknowingly is suffering. My sibling agrees with me.
There is one living relative left with actual legal authority. The middle child. Who puts her head in the sand, but I believe is actually mentally competant to do something about this. I have to inform her of what is going on, but I fear she will also do nothing too. Due to her nature.
If I have no legal authority until my mother and other aunt are dead. What is the moral and ethical thing to do if you know that one of your family members is now living in such a state?
I do not want to destroy, or fracture our family any more than it already has been. My partner tells me to let it go and do not stir shit up. Is she right? Am I missing another solution that I have not thought of?
Please help me with sound advice if you can.
#asknostr