boburtle on Nostr: I'm trying to find the right words to describe this. In a healthy social order, in ...
I'm trying to find the right words to describe this. In a healthy social order, in kind of culture that has existed for thousands of years, women would be strongly *socialized* to be loving and doting towards men, and men would be strongly *incentivized* to be protective and loving towards women. Every village since the dawn of time survived by making their daughters become good wife material to the men that could defend and maintain said village. Women were socialized, men were incentivized, that's the way it always worked. Women are supposed to be men's muse but simps view it the other way around. Simps believe that men are supposed to be the muse for women, that men must struggle and perform to be selected by a woman (and yes I get that's what happens in nature) but that's not what happens in a civilization
A healthy civilization, a healthy social order, or even just a functioning one, constantly conditions women to be good wives then gives those women to men as a default for being contributing members of society. Literally for most of organized history, the vast majority of men were entitled to a wife, it wasn't a thing at the front of your mind, a woman becoming married to you was just something that happened, it wasn't at the front of your mind. As long as you weren't a destitute bum roving from train track to train track you'd have a wife. Both sex and lovey-dovey cuddling were done in private and you rarely thought about it
Simps are contingent to our time, this is something that's anathema to our entire history. Most wives were never gained through courting culture. Most of the time it was "I like the cut of that guy's jib, I'd like him to meet my daughter" things like that. Simps are a product of both an extremely gynocentric courting culture that worships womens every whim and an atomized environment where it's not possible to fall into the social connections that used to provide marriage. Everything's out of wack
A healthy civilization, a healthy social order, or even just a functioning one, constantly conditions women to be good wives then gives those women to men as a default for being contributing members of society. Literally for most of organized history, the vast majority of men were entitled to a wife, it wasn't a thing at the front of your mind, a woman becoming married to you was just something that happened, it wasn't at the front of your mind. As long as you weren't a destitute bum roving from train track to train track you'd have a wife. Both sex and lovey-dovey cuddling were done in private and you rarely thought about it
Simps are contingent to our time, this is something that's anathema to our entire history. Most wives were never gained through courting culture. Most of the time it was "I like the cut of that guy's jib, I'd like him to meet my daughter" things like that. Simps are a product of both an extremely gynocentric courting culture that worships womens every whim and an atomized environment where it's not possible to fall into the social connections that used to provide marriage. Everything's out of wack