CodePsychology on Nostr: Morning, morning Boss-triches! ☕️☀️🌸💜 Yesterday I heard a nice hack for ...
Morning, morning Boss-triches! ☕️☀️🌸💜
Yesterday I heard a nice hack for "communication problems".
Usually everyone has their own style of communication. This is the way they exchange information with their peers, environment.
Problems occur when 2 people has totally different communication style, and one understands something totally different than the other meant. This can lead to problems.
Also we are "social-animals" and we need attention. As kids, when we need attention, we do weird things, we try our boundaries, etc. This might stay for adulthood.
Most probably everyone needs attention, and everyone has their way how they need attention. I could connect the attention with our love language. Some people like to be gifted, others like to be touched, some need quality time, etc. We might associate attention with our love language.
But the hardship comes in adulthood, when you want to let the other know you need attention, or you want to know when your partner needs attention. Somehow this is a communication problem.
Idea:
Just start to use:
I need attention.
That is it! Just communicate that you need attention.
No magic stuff to get the attention, just ask for it. It could also be helpful for kids. Teach your kids, if they need attention, just let you know. Then give them.
But be careful to give attention when seeked, because we condition ourselves through experiences. If we experience that asking for attention does not work, we will try to find other ways, and then bad communication starts again.
Yesterday I heard a nice hack for "communication problems".
Usually everyone has their own style of communication. This is the way they exchange information with their peers, environment.
Problems occur when 2 people has totally different communication style, and one understands something totally different than the other meant. This can lead to problems.
Also we are "social-animals" and we need attention. As kids, when we need attention, we do weird things, we try our boundaries, etc. This might stay for adulthood.
Most probably everyone needs attention, and everyone has their way how they need attention. I could connect the attention with our love language. Some people like to be gifted, others like to be touched, some need quality time, etc. We might associate attention with our love language.
But the hardship comes in adulthood, when you want to let the other know you need attention, or you want to know when your partner needs attention. Somehow this is a communication problem.
Idea:
Just start to use:
I need attention.
That is it! Just communicate that you need attention.
No magic stuff to get the attention, just ask for it. It could also be helpful for kids. Teach your kids, if they need attention, just let you know. Then give them.
But be careful to give attention when seeked, because we condition ourselves through experiences. If we experience that asking for attention does not work, we will try to find other ways, and then bad communication starts again.