Sunanda on Nostr: Mastobros, help me out. I am trying to articulate a thought here but I think I am ...

Mastobros, help me out. I am trying to articulate a thought here but I think I am doing a bad job of it.
Are men sometimes playing Devil's Advocate unknowingly? Like, in their mind they are just sounding out all the possibilities, but to the woman in front of them it is just exceptionally hurtful? 1/n