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Now of course, everyone has their own opinion about this. Relationships are a very personal thing and it’s never easy to let go of people in your life that you love, even if they’re toxic and manipulative. What I share here, along with everything else I share, it’s from personal experience and experiences of people I’ve talked to.
When you plant a tree sapling, your hope is that it grows tall, wide and strong. You make sure it gets plenty of water, sunlight and compost so that as many nutrients as possible seep into the roots. Another thing that people sometimes don’t think about is trimming the tree. Trimming the tree guides it and takes its shape whatever you want it to be. If you want it to grow wide, you trim the top. If you want it to grow tall, you trim the sides.
YOU are that tree. If you want to grow, you feed your mind and body whatever it needs to grow— food, water, knowledge, wisdom. But at times, you need to trim down your branches, the relationships you have that don’t add to your growth. When I mean toxic, I don’t mean individuals that at times say mean things or might appear rude. I’m talking about individuals that have an appearance of “love and compassion”. People that gaslight you to make you believe you’re the one with the problem, they guilt you into doing something you don’t want to do, they might threaten you with violence even.
When I was young, I was very naive to think that people always have your best interests at heart. I was manipulated to believe that I’m always wrong and if I don’t play along to their pretense, then I have the problem. This only comes from relationships with people that are close to you, like close friends, parents, siblings and other relatives. It usually comes from a place of “trust”, because why would you assume someone is trying to do you wrong.
It can be heartbreaking when you learn you’re a survivor of such treatment. Notice I used the word survivor rather than victim. Victim is a word that is overused in today’s society, it’s used as a manipulative word to convey feelings of guilt on people. But a survivor, gets back up! You can’t keep a survivor down, not for very long because they will always find a way to get back up!
If you feel you’re in a constant cycle of being treated badly and feel there’s no way out, just follow these simple steps.
1). Find a place where you find peace. Could be by a river, in the forest, in your room. Anywhere you find peace.
2). Write out your thoughts and feelings in a book. In it write why you feel this way, what the individual has done to make you feel bad like things they’ve said and done.
3). With it all written down, read the passage a couple of times. And now write down what would be the best thing to do, like for example, should you talk to this person about they’ve done? Should you bring another person to support you?
4). Write down how you can react better next time. The goal is to grow, sometimes hard choices require the willingness to take action
I hope this helps at least one person. Life is hard as it is, no point making life harder. So help someone out, even if it’s using our speech that can encourage. Stay blessed🤙🏽
#staypositive #grow #nostr
When you plant a tree sapling, your hope is that it grows tall, wide and strong. You make sure it gets plenty of water, sunlight and compost so that as many nutrients as possible seep into the roots. Another thing that people sometimes don’t think about is trimming the tree. Trimming the tree guides it and takes its shape whatever you want it to be. If you want it to grow wide, you trim the top. If you want it to grow tall, you trim the sides.
YOU are that tree. If you want to grow, you feed your mind and body whatever it needs to grow— food, water, knowledge, wisdom. But at times, you need to trim down your branches, the relationships you have that don’t add to your growth. When I mean toxic, I don’t mean individuals that at times say mean things or might appear rude. I’m talking about individuals that have an appearance of “love and compassion”. People that gaslight you to make you believe you’re the one with the problem, they guilt you into doing something you don’t want to do, they might threaten you with violence even.
When I was young, I was very naive to think that people always have your best interests at heart. I was manipulated to believe that I’m always wrong and if I don’t play along to their pretense, then I have the problem. This only comes from relationships with people that are close to you, like close friends, parents, siblings and other relatives. It usually comes from a place of “trust”, because why would you assume someone is trying to do you wrong.
It can be heartbreaking when you learn you’re a survivor of such treatment. Notice I used the word survivor rather than victim. Victim is a word that is overused in today’s society, it’s used as a manipulative word to convey feelings of guilt on people. But a survivor, gets back up! You can’t keep a survivor down, not for very long because they will always find a way to get back up!
If you feel you’re in a constant cycle of being treated badly and feel there’s no way out, just follow these simple steps.
1). Find a place where you find peace. Could be by a river, in the forest, in your room. Anywhere you find peace.
2). Write out your thoughts and feelings in a book. In it write why you feel this way, what the individual has done to make you feel bad like things they’ve said and done.
3). With it all written down, read the passage a couple of times. And now write down what would be the best thing to do, like for example, should you talk to this person about they’ve done? Should you bring another person to support you?
4). Write down how you can react better next time. The goal is to grow, sometimes hard choices require the willingness to take action
I hope this helps at least one person. Life is hard as it is, no point making life harder. So help someone out, even if it’s using our speech that can encourage. Stay blessed🤙🏽
#staypositive #grow #nostr