lexbacker on Nostr: Hi there, greetings from Holland. Dad of three daughters and one son here. Ages now ...
Hi there, greetings from Holland. Dad of three daughters and one son here. Ages now 12,19,21,23.
My two cents, for your consideration.
Firstly, children should learn that adults, too, make mistakes, and that adults, too, have feelings. It happens. Once it has happened you cannot unsay what was said or undo what was done.
What matters MORE is that they should also learn how to behave after having made a mistake. It’s good that you humbly apologised in the moment. Also good that you sent them a (rational?) message.
The only thing that’s not clear is whether you have spoken about emotion; how you still feel about your mistake. This is best done the next time you see them face to face, once the dust has settled.
Just tell him/them you still feel upset/guilty for having overreacted to a young child, apologise again and ask the child if he is willing to accept your apology. If so, case closed. There is nothing more you can do.
And hopefully the child will also learn how to behave the next time that he makes a mistake - which is inevitable.
Hope helpful.
My two cents, for your consideration.
Firstly, children should learn that adults, too, make mistakes, and that adults, too, have feelings. It happens. Once it has happened you cannot unsay what was said or undo what was done.
What matters MORE is that they should also learn how to behave after having made a mistake. It’s good that you humbly apologised in the moment. Also good that you sent them a (rational?) message.
The only thing that’s not clear is whether you have spoken about emotion; how you still feel about your mistake. This is best done the next time you see them face to face, once the dust has settled.
Just tell him/them you still feel upset/guilty for having overreacted to a young child, apologise again and ask the child if he is willing to accept your apology. If so, case closed. There is nothing more you can do.
And hopefully the child will also learn how to behave the next time that he makes a mistake - which is inevitable.
Hope helpful.