mia on Nostr: re online dating, what is it with cishet people and making it resemble the job ...
re online dating, what is it with cishet people and making it resemble the job application process? who has ever found a nice job that way and not through acquaintances/networking? does anyone actually believe that same approach will somehow work any better for finding partners??
i mean just think about it.
on one hand, you have women being very selective and having to reject most applicants, often because even the ones who aren’t legitimate creeps just do not even have the bare minimum of soft skills (stunted emotional development etc.). some get so many of them all the time it’s impossible to treat each one like a human being.
and on the other hand, you have men who keep getting ignored/rejected while nobody ever tells them what they could be doing better; who have to message dozens of potential matches to get one in-person interview and then pray they’re really gonna hear back in a week; whom the entire system is heavily rigged against because dating apps have a profit incentive and need everyone to remain single. like the many companies running fake job ads to put pressure on their employees by making them feel replaceable, dating platforms WILL bait them with everything they have.
like, fuck, y’all are using the internet all wrong. this isn’t just a void to scream into for attention; you can literally just cut out the middleman and open up to each other as cool internet friends before you even get into anyone’s DMs. be a person, not a persona. if there’s chemistry you will know. it’s not that hard.
i mean just think about it.
on one hand, you have women being very selective and having to reject most applicants, often because even the ones who aren’t legitimate creeps just do not even have the bare minimum of soft skills (stunted emotional development etc.). some get so many of them all the time it’s impossible to treat each one like a human being.
and on the other hand, you have men who keep getting ignored/rejected while nobody ever tells them what they could be doing better; who have to message dozens of potential matches to get one in-person interview and then pray they’re really gonna hear back in a week; whom the entire system is heavily rigged against because dating apps have a profit incentive and need everyone to remain single. like the many companies running fake job ads to put pressure on their employees by making them feel replaceable, dating platforms WILL bait them with everything they have.
like, fuck, y’all are using the internet all wrong. this isn’t just a void to scream into for attention; you can literally just cut out the middleman and open up to each other as cool internet friends before you even get into anyone’s DMs. be a person, not a persona. if there’s chemistry you will know. it’s not that hard.