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2024-03-06 14:46:48

RickThrivingNow on Nostr: ๐—™๐—ฟ๐—ผ๐—บ ๐—˜๐˜…๐—ฝ๐—ฒ๐—ฐ๐˜๐—ฎ๐˜๐—ถ๐—ผ๐—ป๐˜€ ๐˜๐—ผ ...

๐—™๐—ฟ๐—ผ๐—บ ๐—˜๐˜…๐—ฝ๐—ฒ๐—ฐ๐˜๐—ฎ๐˜๐—ถ๐—ผ๐—ป๐˜€ ๐˜๐—ผ ๐—”๐—ด๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐—ฒ๐—บ๐—ฒ๐—ป๐˜๐˜€

We expect things to happen a certain way. If the front door was always left unlocked and we found it locked and had no key, who wouldnโ€™t emotionally react?

Indeed, the expression โ€œtake for grantedโ€ is all about expectations. A person is never angryโ€ฆ except that one timeโ€ฆ and everyone who expected them to always be kind and go along is shocked when they are angry! Same with the person who always does the dishes, takes out the trash, and works weekends to finish the project.

For efficiency, the human brain creates expectations. They are shortcuts.

Itโ€™s a problem, though, if we want to thrive. People who are taken for granted often come to resent those situations long-term. If we expect certain behavior and donโ€™t get it, it can feel like a betrayal (even when it isnโ€™t).

Itโ€™s why for thriving, agreements are vastly superior to relying on expectationsโ€ฆ especially unspoken ones.

An agreement can outline:

Who will do what and when?
What will we strive not to do?
How do we communicate when we canโ€™t fulfill our part?
How do we change the agreement?
Is there anything we want specifically or would enjoy getting as we fulfill the agreement?

https://www.thrivingnow.com/concept/agreements
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