mgorny-nyan (he) :autism:🙀🚂🐧 on Nostr: I suppose many people in the spectrum didn't have an easy childhood, especially if ...
I suppose many people in the spectrum didn't have an easy childhood, especially if they lived in rural areas. Having difficulties bonding with peers, problems, solitude, bullying. However, the worst that you could have is having your parents tell the child that you just need to survive and wait, because one day you'll go a different school, meet new people and things will miraculously "be better". Because the child will take that literally, and make a point of their childhood to wait for this better day. It will believe that the problem is just a matter time, and then it will be solved.
Then comes the time for a higher grade school. And perhaps it will be a little better. But it won't be as great as it was promised. Perhaps you will cope better, perhaps you will find a better company, but you will never be neurotypical. And you will hear, once again, that you need to wait, and at the university things will definitely be just great.
Then comes the time for university. And again, it will be a little better, but never as good as it was promised. On the other hand, you will start realizing even more that you can't fit — that you've missed an important part of your life, that you lack the experiences that other people have, that you're a child that's suddenly ended up an adult between adults. And what will you hear? Of course, when you finally go to work, things will be even better.
And what's the truth? The future never brings anything better of its own accord. What it brings instead, is the realization that you've wasted the best years of your life waiting to be an adult. And then you are old, unhealthy and surrounded by people who sorted out their lives a long time ago. And people expect from you that you will work hard 5 days a week, and somehow manage to find more energy to sort out your own life at that.
And yes, as the old maxim says, you should just cope all these years and wait for retirement. Presuming you'll actually qualify for pension, that you'll be reasonably healthy and that the world won't burn completely by the time.
#ActuallyAutistic
Then comes the time for a higher grade school. And perhaps it will be a little better. But it won't be as great as it was promised. Perhaps you will cope better, perhaps you will find a better company, but you will never be neurotypical. And you will hear, once again, that you need to wait, and at the university things will definitely be just great.
Then comes the time for university. And again, it will be a little better, but never as good as it was promised. On the other hand, you will start realizing even more that you can't fit — that you've missed an important part of your life, that you lack the experiences that other people have, that you're a child that's suddenly ended up an adult between adults. And what will you hear? Of course, when you finally go to work, things will be even better.
And what's the truth? The future never brings anything better of its own accord. What it brings instead, is the realization that you've wasted the best years of your life waiting to be an adult. And then you are old, unhealthy and surrounded by people who sorted out their lives a long time ago. And people expect from you that you will work hard 5 days a week, and somehow manage to find more energy to sort out your own life at that.
And yes, as the old maxim says, you should just cope all these years and wait for retirement. Presuming you'll actually qualify for pension, that you'll be reasonably healthy and that the world won't burn completely by the time.
#ActuallyAutistic