0000FFmoongirl on Nostr: a thought for women considering motherhood: allow yourself to test the decision. ...
a thought for women considering motherhood: allow yourself to test the decision. "visit" the yes! state of mind. pretend you've already decided yes.
and then listen to how you respond to that choice. if the yes answer does fit your values, your body may give you a physical blast of what I think of as "values alignment relief". perhaps you'll be as pleasantly surprised as I was when I let myself accept the "I want this" path. I discovered that it feels wonderful when you stop battling against the "external shoulds" and listen to your own values.
you may not be ready to mom, now or ever. but if you're trying to decide, then "try it on". if this exercise seems "scary", remember that you're just testing the potential path. parenting is best, imo, as a chosen path.
or, take the visual route to explore the question. put this picture of Grace, the Gerber Baby of 2015, on your frig for a while. she will help you answer the "would 'the diaper years' be an acceptable phase, if I were to choose to bring someone this adorably charming my life?"
and then listen to how you respond to that choice. if the yes answer does fit your values, your body may give you a physical blast of what I think of as "values alignment relief". perhaps you'll be as pleasantly surprised as I was when I let myself accept the "I want this" path. I discovered that it feels wonderful when you stop battling against the "external shoulds" and listen to your own values.
you may not be ready to mom, now or ever. but if you're trying to decide, then "try it on". if this exercise seems "scary", remember that you're just testing the potential path. parenting is best, imo, as a chosen path.
or, take the visual route to explore the question. put this picture of Grace, the Gerber Baby of 2015, on your frig for a while. she will help you answer the "would 'the diaper years' be an acceptable phase, if I were to choose to bring someone this adorably charming my life?"